"What If You Get To Make Your Breakup Or Divorce The Best Thing That Has Ever Happened To You?"
On a chilly Saturday morning in early January, after laughing over breakfast and playing in bed with our dog, my wife said the words that would change my life forever…
“I’m sorry, I don’t want to be married to you any longer. I will be gone within the hour.”
True to her word, my marriage ended that morning, and the rest of my life started to crumble as well. What followed was a downward spiral that took me to the very edge of my life on a small beach in Nicaragua.
Then and there I made a decision. The same decision you’re on the verge of making RIGHT NOW.
To take my life back. But here was the rub…I didn’t want the old one, that was history. I wanted a better life, the one I always felt was just out of my reach. I didn’t want to merely survive losing everything but also to come back from that experience and actually be thankful it happened. Thankful for the new life that made my old one pale in comparison.
That's exactly what I did and I want to show you how I did it.
"This book helped me get through the darkest times of my life"
A friend of mine sent me the author's TED talk last year and I was touched beyond words. I started following him via social media, youtube and his website and have been moved over and over again by his words and thoughts. I recently read this book and was blown away- it came to me at the perfect time as I was struggling through some life battles of my own. I could relate to every chapter of this book and I cried and laughed through the entire thing. The vulnerability and authenticity and raw emotion in this book helped me get through each day of my struggle and for that I am forever grateful. Highly recommended for someone going through their own personal hell- and we ll know someone who is.
By Rebecca Boyetton
"Skills for long-term life transformation"
Traver Boehm’s debut book is refreshingly authentic in its vulnerable and no finger-pointing approach to dealing with the loss of a relationship. I was first taken aback by the format, it is meant to be read a chapter a day, as it is not something I am used to. But in retrospect, it is really the best way to accomplish what the book sets out to do: recreate one’s life. By making sure it is read one short chapter (or lesson or strategy) per day, it ensures that the person reading it will set aside some time for self-care, and to actively engage with their terrible situation, each day. By making this mind set of rebirth and self-care part of one’s daily routine and working at it every day, people who read it will become stronger through, and because of, personal pain.
By Tamara Palmeron
Whether you want your Ex back or not, what you do next is VITAL to where you'll be a year from now...
Go numb. Go down the common path so many do and try to numb your pain with drugs, alcohol, sex or any number of unhealthy “distractions." This is the path of poor decisions and wasted opportunity.This is not the path to reconciling with your ex, nor developing healthy new relationships. It inevitably leads you right back here, heartbroken yet again, asking yourself this same set of questions.
Be brave. Spend some time flat on your back grieving your loss, and then courageously pull yourself back to your feet. Do you dust yourself off and begin to own your strength, your power, and your beautiful potential. This is the path to standing strong and becoming the person you always knew you could be. The path to exuding attraction, and becoming someone your ex can't believe they walked away from.